‘My husband wants to void our prenup after working out I earn more than him’
Finances can be a bit of a contentious issue when getting married, especially considering many sadly end in divorce – which is, of course, why many couples opt to sign prenups, meaning their assets will remain their own even after marriage.
One woman, 32, and her husband, 34, did exactly that, at her husband’s request, as she had only just graduated from school when they tied the knot six years who, while he was already making good money.
Six years on, the couple have continued to keep their finances separate – yet she has gone on to progress so far in her career that she now earns more than three times what he makes – but he doesn’t know.
“Two weeks ago I told him that I was thinking about buying a new car as one I had was really old since I had had it since my undergraduate days. He wasn’t really interested and just told me to get whatever I liked,” the woman explained on Reddit’s AITA forum.
“So a week ago, while my husband was away on a business trip, I decided to make the plunge and get an Audi, I was pretty excited as I had always wanted one. When he got back I showed him my car and he was really happy for me, however later he asked me what my monthly payments were as the Audi was pretty new.
“At this point I told him that I had made the purchase in cash and that I had no monthly payments. He was taken back and asked with what money and I answered that I made more than enough money to be able to afford it.”
Her husband didn’t say much, but a few hours later he came back and suggested they should void the prenup and she simply laughed in his face.
“I asked him why I would agree to that and his answer was that we’re married and should share our financials. So I told him that we’ve been married for six years and yet we’ve never shared financials and I was fine with what we were doing, and his sudden change of heart was very suspicious,” she continued.
“He called me a bunch of names and stormed out and didn’t come home and and I guess he told his family about our fight and they called to berate me and say how he supported me while I was in school even though he didn’t.”
One Reddit user responded: “Not going lie, you two don’t sound like partners. You sound like you’re against each other in life. take this change of heart as the red flag that it is and consider how you want to proceed.”
“I’d also say this is a bit of a red flag he wasn’t willing to share finances when he thought he was making more than you but now that he knows you make more he wants to ‘share’. I wouldn’t even give getting rid of the prenup a second thought if I were you,” another added.
“Should anything happen to your relationship and you split, it will be bitter and dirty, trust me I work in family law and divorce brings out the worst in people.”